Start with the observation

People, places, bodies and seasons change while love often asks them to remain exactly as they are.

Follow the reasoning

  1. Love expands the world of the lover, but it also makes every threatened thing a source of fear.
  2. The pain is not evidence that love is worthless; it shows that the object cannot carry all the permanence love asks from it.
  3. If beauty is received rather than owned, departure need not make the encounter meaningless.

A passage to hold beside it

“Yet the beings a person loves do not remain; they depart. So the person continually suffers separation.” 1

Read plainly

The problem is not that the heart loves too much. It may be asking temporary forms to bear a weight only lasting beauty can bear.

Try observing this

Think of something changed or lost. Separate the goodness you received from the demand that its form never change.

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