Start with the observation

We sometimes protect ourselves from loss by loving less, as though a smaller heart were a safer one.

Follow the reasoning

  1. Reducing love also reduces gratitude, attention and the ability to recognize beauty.
  2. A reflected light can be loved both for what it gives and for what it reveals about its source.
  3. When love moves through the gift toward the giver, change hurts without turning all meaning into ruin.

A passage to hold beside it

“Yet the beings a person loves do not remain; they depart. So the person continually suffers separation.” 1

Read plainly

Mature love does not deny the passing form. It refuses to imprison the whole meaning of love inside that form.

Try observing this

Look at something you love and ask what quality in it you are really loving.

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